When My Blog Grows Up

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about I want my blog to be when it grows up. It’s grown a lot recently and I can foresee it becoming an actual full time job in the future. Which, let me say, is amazing. When I started this blog I never ever ever would have believed that it would become what it has. Sharing my projects with y’all is seriously the most perfect dream job and I couldn’t be more excited about it…my husband isn’t complaining about having a few extra dollars lying around either :)

Balancing blogging and family is one of the biggest issues I’ve heard talked about since I entered the blogosphere. Those of you that aren’t bloggers may think this sounds silly, but blogging takes a ton of time. Doing all the projects, taking and editing pictures, and writing posts are all very time consuming, but there is so much more. Responding to comments, linking up to parties, keeping up with social media, and answering e-mails take just as much time as the actual blogging part. I LOVE all your e-mails and comments so don’t think I’m saying otherwise, but they do take up a lot of my day. I’ve  seen so many bloggers get to the point where their blog is taking up so much of their time that they have to step back and remember that being a wife and a mother is their number one priority. I’ve seen blogs shut down over the issue and I don’t want to get the point where I have to choose, because this blog will lose. (I’m a poet!)

So what are my plans for the future of Domestic Imperfection?

  • I want my blog to be exactly what it is now. I know that as blogs grow people feel pressure to pump out projects or post every single day to keep up with demand. Sometimes they do lots of guest posts, bring on contributors, or just feature lots of other people’s projects. Let me just say that I have absolutely NO problem with that, it’s just not the direction I want my blog to take. I’m not saying I won’t ever have a guest post, I simply don’t want to lose my voice on my own website.
  • I want to post randomly, whenever it is convenient for me. I would like to post once a week, but beyond that you should have no expectations of me. I’m never going to be an everyday poster. I want my posts to continue to be “meaty”…by that I mean that most of my posts can stand alone and will be just as useful in five years as they are now. Also, I want y’all be excited when you see a new post from me because you know it’s chock full of project awesomeness, and I think that’s more important that posting everyday or even posting on a schedule.
  • I really just want this to be an outlet for me to share my projects, progress on our renovations, and whatever else I feel like writing. That’s it. I don’t want to force creativity just so that I have something to write about.  I’m only going to do projects that I would do whether I had a blog or not….hence the random posting.
  • I don’t want it to become about making money. Don’t get me wrong, I want to make money, but I don’t want to compromise content to do that.
  • I promise to only recommend products that I love, are relevant, and I would spend my own money on.
  • I may write a few sponsored post in the future. I’ve been a member of  Social Spark for a while – it’s a website that connects blogs to companies and pays bloggers to write post about products. So far I’ve turned down every offer I’ve gotten from them, even on products I like and are relevant. I do not want to come across as a commercial, that’s not what this is about. That being said, they are starting to offer A LOT of money for a post (like triple digits, and not the kind that start with a 1), so if I come across a great product I may try to weave it into a project post so y’all won’t even notice. And if you do, please do your best to not feel betrayed. (For an example of a sponsored post that was written well, go HERE. The only reason I know this was a sponsored post is because I turned down this offer. Also, she tells you it is, lol ).
  • I don’t ever want to get to the point where blogging isn’t fun and I certainly don’t want it to become a chore or obligation.
  • My full time job will always be as a wife and a mother.  My part time job will be this blog.
  • I would like to be a little more organized. I don’t currently schedule posts, so when you see a post appear it’s because I just finished writing it five minutes earlier. I have no idea what I’m going to write about from day to day…I usually have ten or so posts sitting in drafts, and I just pick what I feel like writing about and go with it. Most of the time the drafts are no more that a title, they’re just there so I don’t forget to write about a project.  I’m not going to change my methods drastically, I just would like to have a few posts scheduled, so I don’t feel like I have to write something immediately because I haven’t posted in a week.
  • I don’t think I’ll ever have a link party. I know, it’s pretty much a right of passage, but there are SO MANY link parties that  we really don’t need another one. I may consider a monthly one if y’all beg me (because I really would love to feature some awesome reader projects) but y’all would have to show some serious interest and I just don’t see that happening.
  • Basically I’m just going to be myself. I’m going to post what I want, when I want. I’m going to show you pictures of my dirty house and even dirtier kids. I’m going to continue to start sentences with “and” or “but” and use “y’all” more than you thought possible. I’ll still dish out the sarcasm and be stingy with my exclamation points. It’s gotten me this far, right?


So I think that about covers it! I’d love to hear y’alls feedback…things you like about my blog, things you could do without, what you would like to see more of, etc.  Just be nice about it :)

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  1. Kathryn (@Thrushiebaby) Franks says:

    What I really LOVE about your blog? Your honesty! I first found you on Pinterest when your paisley table went viral!! I COULD NOT believe that you took pics with your KIDS (in a diaper) in the back ground!! I thought to myself, “Self, LOOK at her!! She is JUST LIKE YOU! She has STUFF going on while she crafts!!!” I love that you SHOWED your bedroom before you cleaned it! I like that you have no pretense, no making yourself out to be anything but who you truly are, and what your house truly looks like!!!
    LOVE IT!!
    And I love the fact that you are local (to me anyway), makes you even more real!!

  2. Your blog is awesome! I think as long as you continue to be transparent, readers will not find issue with it becoming too commercial or lacking integrity. You’re one of the most ‘real’ design/decor blogs out there and I think that is why you’re so popular. Keep it up!
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  3. I love this post! I feel the same way you do about a lot of your points! Thanks for sharing and I love your blog just the way it is and apparently a lot of other people do too :)
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  4. Your blog is one of my favorites and I don’t think you need to change anything. I agree about link parties. They are great if you’re trying to get your blog noticed, but there are so many. I usually just skip over them because it’s too overwhelming to look through everything. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  5. I love your blog. But I NEED to see more of your kitchen. Did you ever finish it?

    • No, it’s still half finished. I KNOW. I’ve had trouble reaching my dishes for almost a year now! As soon as we do any work on it, y’all will know. I made a deal with Adam that we would finish it before his fall semester starts, and I’m planning on holding him to it :)

  6. Hi, I’m here via the Serenity Now Linky party. I love your honesty and rational assessment of your bloggy career! I hope to be in a position that you are….this is very inspirational! Thank you!
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  7. Ashley, I want to be YOU when my blog grows up! ha! I love the way you operate, and I operate almost the exact same way. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing! :)

    • Lol, thanks Virginia. And s soon as you have a couple kids that destroy your house and make doing projects really hard you will be me!

  8. Kim in Michigan says:

    Well said and i am with you all the way! You go girl!

  9. I knew your blog was growing! I’m relieved to hear you saying you don’t want it to change. I love it just the way it is, and have always found your forthrightness incredibly refreshing. What other blog features a “double flyswatter-wielding toddler” in its project tutorials? Those are the things that make me laugh out loud (really, not just “lol”). I also love your “ramblings” because they bring your family alive for me as a reader, and bring back memories from my own toddler- and baby-mama days.

    There’s always a risk when a person starts doing creative endeavors for reasons other than personal need, desire or satisfaction, that the creative element will take a back seat to the schedule, or money, or whatever else is now in the driver’s seat. I know this from bitter experience: when my teaching studio grew really huge I felt like I was sort of “pimping out” my musicality, and lost the connection on a personal level. (Sorry for the terminology, but that’s what it felt like.) So I think you’re very wise to keep the projects to only those you do because you want or need to.

    Oh, and sometimes people just post too often. I like it when your posts show up, it’s like, yay, a post I’m going to really enjoy! Not like some that come in multiple times a day until I sometimes end up unsubscribing because I can’t keep up and/or lose interest.

    Anyway, I’ll reel it in now – keep having fun and keeping it real, cheers!
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  10. I also found you when that gorgeous stenciled table made an appearance. I subscribe to several blogs, but I only actually read the posts for a few. Yours is one of my very favorites. I think it’s because you love what your doing & you’re doing it for you.

    I started a PINspiration blog hop a while back without much participation & was really bummed by that. So much to the point that I stopped posting so often. But then I realized that I post for me. So yeah, you’re right about that not needing to be a necessity. Best of luck to you!
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  11. Please keep your website “True”. I am so tired of feeling traped by some peoples blogs because of all the commercialization. I have stoped reading alot of blogs because of this. I like your blog because it is “you”. Keep up the good work!

  12. Ashley, your life now is my life 35 years ago. We built our house and paid for all the materials as we built it. My husband and I hammered every nail, mudded every piece of sheetrock. Laid and grouted every tile. Stained and varnished every cabinet. Put up every piece of wallpaper. Painted every wall and woodwork. Landscaped every flowerbed. I, too, got a rocker out of the dumpster (and still have it). I sewed every curtain, pillow, refinished and recovered furniture, and shopped for deals in places like Home Depot and Lowe’s, but back in my day it was Furrows and 84 Lumber. And all before the internet. I had three little kids running around in diapers playing with rocks and mud while I had a paint brush in my hand.

    I love your blog. I can identify with so many of your projects. I admire you. Your ideas are very clever and creative. You work smart; and even better, you have found a way to make a little money while you redo your home and be a mom. I love that you are an honest hard worker, have a great sense of humor, and are willing to blog about your journey. Back then, I did not want anyone to know I lived on concrete floors or that my car would get stuck in the mud after it rained before I had a driveway. I love watching another young couple willing to do all these things and pinch all those pennies to have their home paid for. I dont know too many people who have done or would do the things it takes to accomplish this. We still pinch pennies. We still do the work. Those little kids have bought their own home fixer uppers and are pinching their own pennies to pay off their homes.

    I love reading about all you and your husband have been through in just a few short years as you remembered on your recent anniversary post. I love your penny bar. I love your bathroom with the pipes showing under the countertop. I love your laundry room makeover. I am just as excited to see you get a fence, a driveway and a garage. I love the Texas Forever because I too am a Texas girl. I agree there is no place like Texas.

    All of this to say I love your blog just the way you write it. You do it just the way you want it. Stay true to yourself and keep entertaining us with your projects and triumps.

    • I’m not even sure how to respond to such an awesome comment besides saying thank you. So thank you. My parents built their own house and pinched there own pennies, so I come by it honestly. I couldn’t change project doing penny pinching Texas loving ways even if I wanted to!

  13. Shannon B. says:

    It’s your horse Sister. Ride it however you want! Make a buck when you can. Enjoy your front porch when you can. Don’t let society create your path! Your motto is DIY! So… go do it yourself, your own way!

  14. I love your blog, the fact that you show all your screw-ups and how you make them work for you! Wish I could be more like you…I’m not the crazy perfectionist I used to be, but I still labor over my projects tooo long. I love your honesty about your family and lifestyle. Keep everything the same. Receiving posts everyday is sometimes too much. And P.S. I’m glad you didn’t take the “offer” those shutters were downright ugly!! Sorry!! hope I didn’t offend anyone :)

    • Lol, I agree, but you have to give her points for creativity! You didn’t have to make chevron shutters though to fulfill the offer, just use the wood staining product (which I do plenty of). I used to be a perfectionist too (when it came to projects, I was still messy!) but then I had kids and decided that just getting something DONE was more important that making it perfect. Plus they abuse whatever I make anyway, so perfection would be fleeting. I still feel like my projects take me forever though!

  15. Jets Jewelry says:

    This is one of the best blog post I have read

  16. Just found your blog and I love it! Great projects and tips, so glad I found you! I’m now your newest follower and can’t wait to explore more of your blog!
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  17. What a refreshing post to read. I love your transparency, and the fact that you are upfront about the expectations your readers can expect. A lot of bloggers try to be sneaky about it and then suddenly it seems like their blog becomes nothing but sponsored content pumped out just for the paycheck.

    Very admirable what you are doing. I’m in total agreeance with you on this!
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  18. Coming from your sister in law (who is of course one of you biggest fans for SO many reasons) I JUST wanted to say that I love how your personality and honesty are just as perfect a combination on your blog as they are in person. I love that about your blog. I look at your posts often but don’t get a chance to read everything (apparently as I just read this one for the first time) but I think setting expectations is an incredible thing to let us all know about even though for those that know you your priorities are obvious.


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